 I am horribly conflicted about divorcing my husband. He's my best friend. We have known each other for years but I've lost my passion and we fight constantly. I keep waiting for things to improve, but I wonder if it is even possible become re-attracted to someone once you've lost “that loving feeling”?
 I call this becoming “roommates”. In this situation you have to take an action. Waiting for change is not a viable option. I never recommend a “roommate” scenario for married couples. This situation creates loneliness on a far greater scale than actually being alone. Before giving up on the marriage, you need to agree to do whatever it takes to become husband and wife again. There is couples therapy and workshops that you both could attend that can bring back that long lost intimacy. I would particularly recommend some imago work www.gettingtheloveyouwant.com which is specifically designed for this type of issue. I have consulted with couples who have been just days away from divorce that have stayed together and found love again after attending an imago event.
Chemistry usually takes a nose dive after the first year and a half of being together. The chemicals quit rushing and reality sets in. After this happens it is important to focus on all the things that you love and admire about your partner. It is a time to remember everything that is right about your partner and the relationship. You don’t have to focus on things that you see are wrong and if you do, it would be the perfect time to practice letting go. It is up to you to develop a different perspective, because after all, in the end that is really all it is---a perspective. This doesn’t mean you have to ignore the issues but they need to be real issues and not minor excuses for not being happy. There are reasons you came together and now would be the time to remember them.
If you both work on yourselves and your relationship as hard as you possibly can with as much help as you can get and find that after all of that you still are “roommates”, then you need to get a divorce. A marriage that has become just a friendship does not fit the definition of “marriage”. It is so much more and must include true intimacy. You both deserve more. Getting out of the relationship after profound effort will make both of you feel as though you made the only choice you could to be happy. I hope you will do everything you can to stay married. I am optimistic about the outcome.
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Here's what's available:
- Phone Readings for people around the globe
- Individual In-Person Consultations
- Couples Consultations
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What you get:
A comprehensive “to do” list in a practical order focusing on priorities and releasing the insignificant.
Clarity and deep profound truths which provide the answers to difficult questions/issues.
My personal undivided attention to address your real time issues either in person or by phone.
I’ve helped my clients resolve or move through the following issues and/or challenges:
- Emotional issues that keep them stuck
- Romance (past, present, and future).
- Blocks or patterns that get in the way
- Relationships with others both professional and personal.
- Money
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Clients report feeling as if they are holding a casual conversation. Yet, deep insight and forward movement are experienced.
Make an appointment:
- When one reaches a cross-road and major life decisions need to be made.
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- When one is so attached to the outcome that the truth can’t be seen or confronted.
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ABOUT LOIS
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Lois is an Austin Texas intuitive consultant and teacher. Lois started her intuitive work in 1990 by
practicing on anyone and everyone she could find. Her professional career
began in January of 1994 when a complete stranger (the word had gotten out)
offered her money for her services. Soon after, in 1995, she started
teaching intuition classes. Lois has a different delivery than most other intuitive readers in that she assists her clients with processing information rather than just providing a long list of facts that is often emotionally overwhelming. Her style is conversational and her delivery always matches the individual needs of the client. Although Lois provides often painfully truthful insights, she generally delivers the information with love, compassion, and deep understanding. Lois has an educational background in business and has owned several successful ones. This makes it easy for her to communicate using appropriate vocabulary in all business, career, and financial matters. She is known for her ability of getting to the heart of the matter, only focusing on the details when necessary. She is exceptionally skilled in relationship matters. People who know her well often refer to her as “Austin’s Relationship Guru”. Lois had many different kinds of relationships for many years before meeting the love her life in 2002. She has helped thousands of people in this extremely difficult arena and has her own Love Lois column published in the Austin Woman Magazine http://www.austinwomanmagazine.com/ which is published monthly.
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VISION
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PROFESSIONAL:
It is my greatest hope and desire to help as many people as possible. I love teaching and I love doing personal consultations. I hope to reach a wider audience both locally and nationally through my writing and talk radio. I derive great joy from doing individual consultations and relationship counseling with couples. Most importantly, I would like to teach more students. There is nothing that I do that is more satisfying in my life than watching my students realize their own personal power through the development of their own intuition. Over the years I have trained many people that felt so empowered that have gone on to become professional readers. My students use the combination of intuition and intention to create powerful, meaningful lives. Intuition classes are fun and life-altering. Check them out at the link provided above.
PERSONAL:
I plan to continue all of my artistic endeavors. There are many. I have decorated four art cars, which I have over time, driven on a daily basis. The mermaid gate on this page is one of my artistic endeavors and leads back to the area where I do my consultations. My house is a reflection of my love of color. I have a colorful mural on my backyard fence. It is important to me to live in my own unique space that I have designed without consideration of “resale”. I plan to continue making my space uniquely mine. Travel is a great passion and there are still many places I have not been. Along the way, I hope to hit every great art museum that I haven’t seen and take pictures of all of nature’s wonders. I love the theatre and as long as plays are still being written, I will be attending. |
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THE ERROR OF OMMISSION
There is one question that I have received over time in many different ways. In the end it is the same question and it will always get the same answer. I would like to answer this question in a general format that applies no matter how the question is asked.
By example, the most recent question I received was from an engaged man. He had an agreement with this fiancé that they would “wait” until they were married. It appears he waited as long as he could but finally one night he broke down and decided to pay for “a happy ending” (manual manipulation). No intercourse or emotional intimacy of any kind. Unfortunately, he also ended up with a hefty dose of guilt topped off by fear around telling his fiancé due to the potential consequences. For him, the consequences included the pain she would experience along with the pain she had the potential of inflicting on him in return. Even worst, there was the potential of losing the relationship all together. Unfortunately by not “telling”, the relationship will probably still end but only after a painful period filled with conflict and misery.
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